Things you don’t want to hear from the doctor: Your Wife has Breast Cancer

There’s no real good way to break the news, as Katie and I have learned – we just found out Katie has breast cancer.  We’re telling the world now as within a month she’ll lose her hair so there won’t be much to hide anymore.  This is not something I ever wanted to hear about the woman I love, have spent the last 15 years with and expect to spend the rest of my life with.  Also we’ve been overwhelmed with the support and kindness from our circle of friends, family and colleagues.  We really, really appreciate everything offered in words and deeds so far.

We found out from a call from the doctor while we were driving – all Katie did was grab my hand as we were driving and I knew the news wasn’t good. Given Katie’s age (35), the fact she’s a mom and her family has _no_ history of breast cancer this was quite a shock.

We met with the oncology team this week and got the full prognosis.  The good news is that Katie’s cancer was caught early enough where the doctors feel good about her outlook.  Like she’s in the bucket where this should all work out just fine.

The bad news is on the various scales of how aggressive her cancer is – she was three for three for bad on the good to bad scale.  The doctors all said Katie should be patting herself on the back for finding the tumor when she did.  6 months or a year from now Katie likely would have been facing very dire circumstances if the cancer had been left untreated.  Katie has more details on her blog here.

Katie’s looking at 4-6 months of the really crappy chemo that will knock her hair out and likely make her feel like crap for the entire time.  Unfortunately all the new age hyper targeted chemo’s don’t apply in her situation.  She gets the bazooka chemo treatment (ie. kill anything that moves good, bad or otherwise).  But better a shitty 6 months to a year for a disease free lifetime.

So we’re off on this journey and though freaked out beyond belief – we’re trying to life our lives.  As many before Katie have said – Katie might have cancer, but we’re going to not let cancer get Katie.

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16 Responses to Things you don’t want to hear from the doctor: Your Wife has Breast Cancer

  1. Nancy Koebel says:

    My thoughts are with you both. It’s got to be devastating news, but if you are both strong you can beat it. With early detection nowadays, many women beat the disease. Keep us posted.

  2. Rex Dixon says:

    Stay strong! I’m thinking you two will beat this together!

  3. Erin says:

    You’ve both been in my thoughts this week. I know you’ll beat this disease. Stay positive! That’s the best way to fight it.

  4. Bob Collins says:

    We’re sending good thoughts your way. We have many friends — and my sister — who have gone through this and came out fine. We’re looking forward to adding you both to that list of ours.

  5. Pamela Hughes says:

    Katie and you have been in my thoughts and prayers all week. Katie will beat this!

  6. sam tingleff says:

    Wow Todd, really sorry to hear this. We went through this with my mother in law. It will be tough especially with young kids, but I’m sure you and Katie will make it out okay.

  7. Greg Cohn says:

    Todd and Katie – I’m so sorry to hear this but know that you will fight it and overcome it and come out stronger than ever.

  8. NealRichter says:

    Todd and Katie,
    Fight to win. My thoughts are with you. A friend of mine’s wife had a similar diagnosis while 6 months pregnant. Baby and wife are fine now, as I pray your family will be for decades to come.

  9. Kevin and Karen Merritt says:

    Todd and Katie,

    Our thoughts and prayers are with you. Let us know if there’s anything we can do.

  10. amanda says:

    Hey Todd,
    You guys have been in my thoughts so much lately. Katie already knows that I have the ability to mobilize the knitters, but I wanted to let you know as well that we all want to help in any way we can. Please let me know if there is anything I/we can do to help.

  11. Chasse says:

    I’ve been sending positive thoughts your way since I heard from Scott. PLEASE let us know how we can be of help.

  12. Shauna Causey says:

    Reading this, I’m so happy to hear they caught it now. I’ll be thinking of you guys. Thanks for sharing this battle with us.

  13. Andy Weissman says:

    You shall kick its ass. You shall.

  14. Vicki Tang-Sanelli says:

    I’m so sorry … if there’s anything I can do, don’t hesitate to ask. You’ve already got my thoughts and good wishes!

  15. mike sofie says:

    Todd,
    I just typed in your name to get in touch and the breast cancer article came up. I am sorry Katie and you are going through this, we have had our issues with the same health worries.

    Please give Katie my best and call me if you can.
    Warm regards,
    Mike 605-7091

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